Feelings
A jar full of vinegar can’t hold honey
We cannot be loving and angry at the same time; we cannot be full of gratitude and also have guilt, anxiety, fear, or resentments. When these miserable feelings start bothering us, we focus on the positive things in our life. Write a gratitude list. This action changes our attitude quicker that a 1000 thoughts. The…
Read MoreIt’s not any of your business what most people think of you
When another person judges or criticizes us, we should seek to understand their motives, values, and experience. We pay attention to those who love us, want the best for us, and share our goals and values. However, everyone is human. Their judgments reflect their life history, maturity, and how they feel about themselves in this…
Read MoreTo thine ownself be true
This has been around for over 2500 years as a guideline to a great life and is still essential to enjoying the best life possible. If we are not true to our values, we will be as a ship without a rudder, blown hither and yon by the winds of the world; if we are…
Read MoreToday is the first day of the rest of my life
Did you make a mistake yesterday? Did you do something you really wish you hadn’t done? No one on this planet can go back in time and change what has happened even five minutes ago. If necessary, we may have to apologize or make amends and then, we must completely release the error. This day—this…
Read MoreWould you rather be happy or right?
Sometimes we may feel a need to prove our self “right,” to win a disagreement to make the other person realize that we are knowledgeable or important. We may need to be right because we don’t have enough self-worth to accept that we might be wrong; we may not understand that it’s ok to be…
Read MoreWherever you are, be there
Life is always better if we can stay focused on THIS moment. We cannot change a thing we did just 5 minutes ago; we cannot control any person or event in tomorrow. Our mind and actions in this precise moment are all that we can realistically hope to control. God lives in eternity but he…
Read MoreUn-returned love is not wasted but flows back to soften and purify the heart of the lover
Love is an active and healthy concern for a person’s well-being; a desire to good for others. When we bestow love to someone, the acts and feeling of love flow from us to them. Nothing about the definition requires or even suggests that we will receive love as a reciprocal act. It’s not about us.…
Read MoreImagined fears ruin my day; the dreads of my imagination are always worse than reality.
Few things that consume us with fear, anxiety or worry ever happen the way we imagine. A single thought of what might happen enters our consciousness; our mind grasps that thought and nurtures it, spawning a family of fear-driven offspring. Morbid, fearful feelings follow the thought and start the downward spiral. It makes little difference…
Read MoreLIVE and LET LIVE
Actually living is more than just existing – more than being a passenger along for the ride. Living is not blindly accepting what the world tells us is important but developing our personal values, commitments, and priorities; it encompasses action, not procrastination; it demonstrates love and service, not indolence and inertia. Living implies that we…
Read MoreWould you rather be happy or right?
Sometimes we may feel a need to prove our self “right,” to win a disagreement to make the other person realize that we are knowledgeable or important. We may need to be right because we don’t have enough self-worth to accept that we might be wrong; we may not understand that it’s ok to be…
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