Emotional pain
It’s not any of your business what most people think of you
When another person judges or criticizes us, we should seek to understand their motives, values, and experience. We pay attention to those who love us, want the best for us, and share our goals and values. However, everyone is human. Their judgments reflect their life history, maturity, and how they feel about themselves in this…
Read MoreTo thine ownself be true
This has been around for over 2500 years as a guideline to a great life and is still essential to enjoying the best life possible. If we are not true to our values, we will be as a ship without a rudder, blown hither and yon by the winds of the world; if we are…
Read MoreToday is the first day of the rest of my life
Did you make a mistake yesterday? Did you do something you really wish you hadn’t done? No one on this planet can go back in time and change what has happened even five minutes ago. If necessary, we may have to apologize or make amends and then, we must completely release the error. This day—this…
Read MoreWould you rather be happy or right?
Sometimes we may feel a need to prove our self “right,” to win a disagreement to make the other person realize that we are knowledgeable or important. We may need to be right because we don’t have enough self-worth to accept that we might be wrong; we may not understand that it’s ok to be…
Read MoreWherever you are, be there
Life is always better if we can stay focused on THIS moment. We cannot change a thing we did just 5 minutes ago; we cannot control any person or event in tomorrow. Our mind and actions in this precise moment are all that we can realistically hope to control. God lives in eternity but he…
Read MoreImagined fears ruin my day; the dreads of my imagination are always worse than reality.
Few things that consume us with fear, anxiety or worry ever happen the way we imagine. A single thought of what might happen enters our consciousness; our mind grasps that thought and nurtures it, spawning a family of fear-driven offspring. Morbid, fearful feelings follow the thought and start the downward spiral. It makes little difference…
Read MoreLIVE and LET LIVE
Actually living is more than just existing – more than being a passenger along for the ride. Living is not blindly accepting what the world tells us is important but developing our personal values, commitments, and priorities; it encompasses action, not procrastination; it demonstrates love and service, not indolence and inertia. Living implies that we…
Read MoreWould you rather be happy or right?
Sometimes we may feel a need to prove our self “right,” to win a disagreement to make the other person realize that we are knowledgeable or important. We may need to be right because we don’t have enough self-worth to accept that we might be wrong; we may not understand that it’s ok to be…
Read MoreLife gives us pain but misery is optional—and self-inflicted.
Pain includes grief, sadness, and mourning; Misery embraces fear, worry, anxiety, anger, resentment, remorse, envy, jealousy, self-pity, pride and most guilt. Misery can start with untreated pain that has become infected or it can be initiated and propagated by selfishness, self-centeredness or self-righteousness. Life gives us pain. Loving other people makes us vulnerable to pain.…
Read MoreGOD HAS THE FLASHLIGHT
When you come to the end of all the light you know, and it’s time to step into the darkness of the unknown, faith is knowing that one of two things shall happen: Either you will be given something solid to stand on or you will be taught to fly. —Edward Teller I’d stayed on…
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