Blaming other people for the way I feel gives them control over my life

Yes, other people can do things that offend or hurt us but it’s our choice on how we react. If we get angry at someone and say—or think—“Look at what he did! He made me angry, he hurt my feelings!” this very thought acknowledges that this person has the power to control the way we feel. This statement or thought makes the other person responsible for the problem but this also automatically makes them responsible for the solution; then, we cannot feel better until they apologize or change.

When we allow someone to control our feelings—say make us angry—the feeling burning inside of us and the thoughts dominating our mind are our real problem. Changing our perspective, modifying our thoughts and words, start the healing process. We acknowledge the turmoil and take ownership of the problem and the solution; we accept that “I am angry at what he did.” This gives us the responsibility and the power to change no matter what the other person does. With this awareness, we can shift our thoughts and attitude; we access our “God within” and open to transforming power of unlimited love, tolerance, patience, understanding, and self-respect.

Prayer: My divine inner source, guide my thoughts, feelings, and reactions. If I react to anyone today, grant me the understanding that I do not need to allow any person or event control my feelings; open my heart and mind to your calming presence; empower me to rise above my human reactions and find that peace that passes all understanding.

Take three relaxing breaths; ask your inner spirit to guide your meditation; reflect on the content, pausing for a few minutes in silence.