Extraordinary Relationships
Today is the first day of the rest of my life
Did you make a mistake yesterday? Did you do something you really wish you hadn’t done? No one on this planet can go back in time and change what has happened even five minutes ago. If necessary, we may have to apologize or make amends and then, we must completely release the error. This day—this…
Read MoreWould you rather be happy or right?
Sometimes we may feel a need to prove our self “right,” to win a disagreement to make the other person realize that we are knowledgeable or important. We may need to be right because we don’t have enough self-worth to accept that we might be wrong; we may not understand that it’s ok to be…
Read MoreWherever you are, be there
Life is always better if we can stay focused on THIS moment. We cannot change a thing we did just 5 minutes ago; we cannot control any person or event in tomorrow. Our mind and actions in this precise moment are all that we can realistically hope to control. God lives in eternity but he…
Read MoreUn-returned love is not wasted but flows back to soften and purify the heart of the lover
Love is an active and healthy concern for a person’s well-being; a desire to good for others. When we bestow love to someone, the acts and feeling of love flow from us to them. Nothing about the definition requires or even suggests that we will receive love as a reciprocal act. It’s not about us.…
Read MoreImagined fears ruin my day; the dreads of my imagination are always worse than reality.
Few things that consume us with fear, anxiety or worry ever happen the way we imagine. A single thought of what might happen enters our consciousness; our mind grasps that thought and nurtures it, spawning a family of fear-driven offspring. Morbid, fearful feelings follow the thought and start the downward spiral. It makes little difference…
Read MoreLIVE and LET LIVE
Actually living is more than just existing – more than being a passenger along for the ride. Living is not blindly accepting what the world tells us is important but developing our personal values, commitments, and priorities; it encompasses action, not procrastination; it demonstrates love and service, not indolence and inertia. Living implies that we…
Read MoreWould you rather be happy or right?
Sometimes we may feel a need to prove our self “right,” to win a disagreement to make the other person realize that we are knowledgeable or important. We may need to be right because we don’t have enough self-worth to accept that we might be wrong; we may not understand that it’s ok to be…
Read MoreLife gives us pain but misery is optional—and self-inflicted.
Pain includes grief, sadness, and mourning; Misery embraces fear, worry, anxiety, anger, resentment, remorse, envy, jealousy, self-pity, pride and most guilt. Misery can start with untreated pain that has become infected or it can be initiated and propagated by selfishness, self-centeredness or self-righteousness. Life gives us pain. Loving other people makes us vulnerable to pain.…
Read MoreIt is what is! Reality does not require on my approval
So simple it is almost an insult; however, I spent a lot of my life knowing this but failed to apply it to my life. I missed the simple truth that reality is reality and does not depend on my wants, desires or opinion. I was more concerned with what I wanted, what I thought…
Read MoreThe four sources of happiness
The transient pleasures that come from the world bear sorrows to come; not in them do the wise find joy.– Bhagavad Gita The four sources of happiness are: Possessing—acquiring “things”, relationships, power, money, recognition Winning—being recognized as a “winner”, as being number one, or better than others Serving—serving or helping other people Transcending—replacing self-directed…
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